There’s nothing wrong with a quick and friendly divorce, if both parties are clear-headed, transparent, and genuinely ready. But rushing the legal process rarely helps end emotional pain. In fact, speeding through it often creates more stress, more fights, and more bills later on.
Prenups aren’t just about protecting money anymore: they’re about defining fairness. As modern marriages evolve, so do the agreements that precede them. Today’s high-net-worth couples are finding creative ways to address issues that traditional prenuptial language never imagined: business growth, phantom equity, and even “milestone” payments tied to time, children, or success.
Money isn’t just currency; it’s culture, identity, and power. In relationships, it can represent stability, freedom, success, or control. Couples rarely see money in exactly the same way, and when those views collide, the fallout can shape the relationship for years. In my work as a divorce attorney, I see time and again how financial stability, money management, and perceptions of success become the central issues in both marriage and divorce.
Why Talking About Money Early Matters
Most people enter relationships talking about chemistry, values, and long-term dreams, but not about credit scores, debt, or financial goals. Those conversations often feel “unromantic,” so they get pushed aside. The problem is that avoiding the money talk doesn’t make the issues disappear. It only delays them until they erupt into conflict.
Custody agreements are some of the most important ** and most fought-over ** parts of a divorce. Parents want what’s best for their kids, but when emotions are running high, it’s easy to make decisions that feel good in the moment but cause bigger problems down the line. I see it all the time in my practice: rushed schedules, vague promises, and unrealistic expectations that land families right back in court.
Here are the five biggest mistakesI see, and how to avoid them.