Having survived yet another holiday season “holding it together for the kids,” many couples reach their breaking point. The statistics overwhelmingly show that January 1 is met with a spike in divorce filings. After the tree lights come down, my phone lights up. While the holidays have a special magic that no one wants to disturb, know that those of you contemplating divorce right now are not alone. And you can make it! Continue reading “Waiting Until After The Holidays To Divorce? You Aren’t Alone.”
Nothing runs up your legal fees in divorce faster than urgent phone calls and late night emails to your lawyer. Dialing your lawyer about custody or possible arrest is reasonable. But some things are not urgent: your blender is not an important part of your divorce (even if it is a “Vitamix”).
But your world is turned upside down right now! That’s why you hired a lawyer – to guide you with pragmatic and unemotional response to your life drama. Here are my top 4 tips that will keep your legal fees in check:
Continue reading “Four Things That Will Double The Cost Of Your Divorce (And How To Avoid Them!)”
Hot as hell and I’m walking by a couple on the sidewalk in New York City. They have a new baby. And I remember this feeling. He’s silent, standing with the stroller. His face is annoyed — like his woman could just disappear from earth and it wouldn’t matter to him. She’s saying something. She’s trying to suppress tears, frustration and still seem calm and attune to the hot wiggling baby in her arms. It’s not supposed to be this hard, she’s thinking. There’s supposed to be joy packed into this thing called love somehow, somewhere. Continue reading “Does Your Relationship Spark Joy?”
This Vlog is a short chat about the basics of Alimony (called “maintenance” in New York) and child support under the statutory framework. Keep in mind that these are quick explanations of complicated areas that have many exceptions. But I give you the basic run-down on what we are talking about when looking at maintenance and child support figures – a good starting point before any deviations or exceptions!
Questions? Feel free to join in the comments or send me an email.
Joan was a mess: tears streamed down her face carrying trails of mascara with them. Her hair was matted in the back and she clenched a bag of papers. “I can’t tell you where we are at here if you won’t hand me what you received,” I reminded her. Reluctantly she showed me the Summons.
“He’s divorcing me!” Joan bawled. “How dare he give me these papers at dinner – it was supposed to be a talk about our future!” Poor Joan had a right to be angry. But there was one, small technical problem: “That wasn’t a valid way to start the divorce,” I told her. Why did I say that? After the jump: Continue reading “3 Myths About Starting Your Divorce (and the Actual Truth)”
Custody is one of the most nerve-racking parts of any break-up. In this short chat about custody, I address some common fears and the definition of some common terms (like “best interests of the child” and “forensics”). Plus I give you my #1 top tip in approaching your case.
Got a custody tip or question? Join us in the comments or send me a message.
Forget March Madness – Prenup Season is here!
We are a few months out from summer wedding season, which means that the time to talk prenups. Talking about it now will give you time to consider the agreement, negotiations and hopefully not add to the pressure you might be experiencing as the wedding draws near.
Why get a prenup? A typical prenup sets out what is viewed as marital property and what will remain separate property. It addresses who gets financial support and how much.
In this short Vlog I talk about reasons why to get a prenup, reasons why prenups can be overturned, and some interesting things you might want to put in your agreement.
Still have questions? Join the discussion in the comments or give me a shout (now, come on and shout now! Heeyyy-eyyy!) to discuss your pending nuptials: email@example.com