Does Your Relationship Spark Joy?

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Hot as hell and I’m walking by a couple on the sidewalk in New York City. They have a new baby. And I remember this feeling. He’s silent, standing with the stroller. His face is annoyed — like his woman could just disappear from earth and it wouldn’t matter to him. She’s saying something. She’s trying to suppress tears, frustration and still seem calm and attune to the hot wiggling baby in her arms. It’s not supposed to be this hard, she’s thinking. There’s supposed to be joy packed into this thing called love somehow, somewhere. Continue reading “Does Your Relationship Spark Joy?”

How To Know When Divorce Is The Answer?

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Marriage is hard work. But that shouldn’t be confused with a bad or painful relationship that causes you more tears than smiles. Remember happy?

I am frequently asked: “But how do I know that divorce is the answer?” Very few people are 100% certain about divorce. I have personally handled hundreds of divorces at this point in my career and if you have doubts, you aren’t alone. Continue reading “How To Know When Divorce Is The Answer?”

#Divorce Perspectives

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There is no question about it: the court process is taxing, expensive and stressful. Sometimes parties try to punish each other by filing extraneous motions — or even appeals that drag out a case and shoot up the legal fees. You may be struggling to keep your head up, to stay strong, or see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Visualize the results you want and where you are trying to go as your new life comes together. Just keep taking small steps forward.

There is an old joke that is similar in sentiment: “Why is divorce so expensive? Because it’s worth it.”

Podcast Interview: Co-Parenting ADHD Under Duress

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Penny Williams is a mom on a mission to guide and mentor parents raising kids with ADHD and/or autism. Parent of a son with ADHD and autism, Penny is the author of three award-winning books on parenting kids with ADHD. Penny is the current editor of ParentingADHDandAutism.com, Founder and Instructor for The Parenting ADHD & Autism Academy, and she also hosts the Parenting ADHD Podcast.

I talked with Penny about the difficulties of dealing with divorce and co-parenting kids with ADHD, especially when the parents don’t agree on ADHD treatment and parenting. There are ways to pre-plan for these parenting disagreements during the divorce process, as well as resources and recourse for resolution after.

Listen in on our discussion and leave your thoughts in the comments!

More Than Just a “Difficult Divorce” – He’s a Narcissist.

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Jessica insisted that her husband could be reasonable in the divorce, despite his threats of physical harm and emotional abuse. She agreed to mediation anyway. Months later and mediation stalled as he slowly stopped cooperating. Then Jessica was surprised with a huge motion full of lies that kicked her out of their house and ordered her to stay away from the kids! Suddenly she had to fight false claims for months to get her kids back.

Jessica was divorcing a narcissist. She believed his offers to settle all while he underhandedly created a false and exaggerated case against her that would take years to undo. If you are divorcing a narcissist, be prepared for a guerrilla-warfare divorce. How do you know he’s a narcissist and how do you approach your divorce?  Continue reading “More Than Just a “Difficult Divorce” – He’s a Narcissist.”

Podcast Interview: Truth and Double Daring

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Listen in as I take on two psychotherapists, Dottie and Diane, and we discuss the challenges of divorce and the success of living your best life.

Diane Shrock, LMFT is a practicing psychotherapist and International Performance Coach. Dr. Dottie (Dorothy) Martin-Neville is a psychotherapist in private practice and founder of an Institute of Healing, a non-profit research Institute. Their podcast challenges listeners to become the leaders of their lives by Double Daring them to jump in and live their authentic truth.

 

Podcast Interview: The Relationship Restaurant

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Divorce often intersects with couples therapy. Many times my clients are just coming to new realizations about their marriage during couples counseling or have tried many times over to make it work. Two excellent therapists and certified coaches that I had the chance to speak with are Poppy and Geoff Spencer. Their work and their marriage — to each other — has been documented in their #1 bestselling book “One Billion Seconds: There’s Still Time to Discover Love.” This dynamic pair discussed a host of different issues when it comes to the realization that a divorce may be on the horizon on the podcast: The Relationship Restaurant. The podcast focus is on “a figurative place where you can feel comfortable and safe to explore your relationship questions and concerns, so you can create your very own heart healthy relationships.”

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