This week I spoke with the smart and financially savvy Emma Johnson, over at her blog WealthySingleMommy.com about the problem with adultery from a divorce attorney’s perspective. The gist: courts won’t compensate you for a broken heart.
When there is infidelity, settlements are all but impossible, rationale goes out the window, and contention runs higher than in other matrimonial dissolution cases.
“That betrayal colors every single part of the divorce process, and makes it so much harder for the cheated-on spouse to be reasonable,” said New York City family attorney Morghan Richardson.
One of the most difficult conversations I have with clients can be dealing with their expectations because of a cheating spouse. Divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience. Adultery can make it much worse. But at the end of the day clients need to realize that the courts will do little about the reasons WHY you are getting divorced. Letting go of that emotional hurt can help get you to a fair agreement and move forward with your life.
Read Johnson’s take here: How To Deal With Divorce When Your Husband Cheated
Did your spouse cheat? How did the court handle that part of your case? Discuss in the comments.
Over the years as a divorce attorney I’ve seen hundreds of relationships falling to pieces in a variety of creative ways. Time and again people come up with new ways to screw up their marriages. But too often my clients knew they shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place! Rather than walk down the aisle, they should have run the other direction. Here are three serious red flags that you shouldn’t stay in the relationship (or heed my warning: your story will end the same way!) Continue reading “Ladies: Three Red Flags The Relationship Is Doomed (And Why You Should Run!)”
You’ve just been sacked with divorce papers from the woman who in this scenario hasn’t been paying the bills for some time.
Nothing will increase the cost of your case faster than failing to weigh the cost of the fight. Know what to fight about and what to let go: Continue reading “Men: 4 Tips You Want To Know About Divorce (That Will Save You $)”
Now that hackers leaked the email addresses of 37 million users of Ashley Madison, the dating service for married people in search of an affair, how will the public release of such private information impact your divorce? I spoke with Emma Johnson, a financial reporter with Forbes, about the issue: Continue reading “Forbes: How Your Spouse’s Ashley Madison Account Can Impact Your Divorce”
The threats to publicly out 37 million users of the online cheating service whose information was hacked from AshleyMadison.com’s servers are raising questions among divorce service professionals and marriage counselors alike. Could the public display of people seeking affairs result in more divorce filings? How will those individuals named be harmed in a divorce? I spoke with Emma Johnson, a financial reporter with Forbes, about the issue: Continue reading “Forbes: Will The Ashley Madison Hack Result In New Divorce Cases?”