Category: Divorce Guilt

Emotions in Divorce that can hurt your case.

Why Every Married Woman Needs a Bank Account in Her Own Name

Why Every Married Woman Needs a Bank Account in Her Own Name

Let’s get this out of the way up front: every married woman should have at least $5,000 in a bank account that’s hers alone: full stop.

Now before anyone starts clutching pearls or calling this marital betrayal, let’s be clear:
I’m not saying the account has to be a secret (though for some women, it probably should be). And I’m certainly not suggesting you stop caring about your partner’s feelings, as healthy relationships are built on openness and mutual respect.

But having your own money is part of being an adult. It’s not about prepping for divorce (though we’ll get to that). It’s about independence, protection, and peace of mind.

Because here’s the reality: life happens. And life is messy.

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Divorcing a Narcissist: What No One Tells You

Divorcing a Narcissist: What No One Tells You

Jessica believed her husband could be reasonable during their divorce, even after years of emotional abuse and threats of physical harm. She agreed to mediation, hoping for a peaceful resolution. But as the months passed, mediation stalled. Her husband stopped responding. Then came the ambush: a massive court motion filled with lies. He accused her of being unstable, got her removed from the family home, and even secured a temporary order keeping her from their children.

It took Jessica months of litigation to undo the damage. And she’s not alone in falling for this litigation strategy.

Jessica was divorcing a narcissist. She believed his promises to settle fairly, while he was quietly building a false narrative to destroy her. If this feels familiar, you’re not crazy, and you’re not alone. Divorcing a narcissist requires a different strategy altogether.

What Is a Narcissist?

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3 Things About Divorce That Nobody Tells You

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Divorce is an emotional process just as much as a legal process. Attorneys tend to ignore the emotion, when really, understanding the emotions involved can reveal what is driving a client or spouse to act a certain way.

As attorneys, we’re trained to focus on statutes, settlements, and case law. But the truth is, many of the biggest issues in divorce aren’t found in the paperwork. They live in the emotional undercurrent: fear, grief, resentment, guilt, and sometimes even relief.

Unfortunately, too many lawyers ignore the emotional reality of divorce. But in my experience, truly understanding a client’s emotional state, and the emotional motivations of the other side, can be the key to reaching a resolution faster and with less pain.

Here are the top 3 things that no one tells you about divorce, after the jump.

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Red Flags Your Spouse May Be Preparing for Divorce

Red Flags Your Spouse May Be Preparing for Divorce

Don’t Ignore the Signs!

Are you getting the sense that something just isn’t right in your marriage, but you can’t quite put your finger on it?

You’re not imagining things. When someone is preparing to leave a marriage, they often show signs before they ever say the word “divorce.” And while no single behavior automatically means your spouse is planning to leave, a pattern of subtle (or not-so-subtle) shifts can be worth paying attention to, especially if they come on suddenly.

Here are some red flags you shouldn’t ignore:

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