Let’s get this out of the way up front: every married woman should have at least $5,000 in a bank account that’s hers alone: full stop.
Now before anyone starts clutching pearls or calling this marital betrayal, let’s be clear: I’m not saying the account has to be a secret (though for some women, it probably should be). And I’m certainly not suggesting you stop caring about your partner’s feelings, as healthy relationships are built on openness and mutual respect.
But having your own money is part of being an adult. It’s not about prepping for divorce (though we’ll get to that). It’s about independence, protection, and peace of mind.
Because here’s the reality: life happens. And life is messy.
Jessica believed her husband could be reasonable during their divorce, even after years of emotional abuse and threats of physical harm. She agreed to mediation, hoping for a peaceful resolution. But as the months passed, mediation stalled. Her husband stopped responding. Then came the ambush: a massive court motion filled with lies. He accused her of being unstable, got her removed from the family home, and even secured a temporary order keeping her from their children.
It took Jessica months of litigation to undo the damage. And she’s not alone in falling for this litigation strategy.
Jessica was divorcing a narcissist. She believed his promises to settle fairly, while he was quietly building a false narrative to destroy her. If this feels familiar, you’re not crazy, and you’re not alone. Divorcing a narcissist requires a different strategy altogether.
Divorce is an emotional process just as much as a legal process. Attorneys tend to ignore the emotion, when really, understanding the emotions involved can reveal what is driving a client or spouse to act a certain way.
As attorneys, we’re trained to focus on statutes, settlements, and case law. But the truth is, many of the biggest issues in divorce aren’t found in the paperwork. They live in the emotional undercurrent: fear, grief, resentment, guilt, and sometimes even relief.
Unfortunately, too many lawyers ignore the emotional reality of divorce. But in my experience, truly understanding a client’s emotional state, and the emotional motivations of the other side, can be the key to reaching a resolution faster and with less pain.
Here are the top 3 things that no one tells you about divorce, after the jump.
Divorce is hard, there’s no sugarcoating it. It can feel like your entire world is falling apart while you’re expected to make huge decisions about your finances, your children, and your future. You’re overwhelmed, angry, and unsure of what comes next.
I help people move from that place of fear and confusion to one of clarity, confidence, and control.
Because here’s the truth: divorce isn’t just about splitting assets or signing paperwork. It’s about protecting your peace, your kids, and your long-term future. It’s about making smart, informed decisions at a time when you may feel emotionally exhausted and uncertain.
Most people don’t realize they have options. That they don’t have to give up everything or go to war just to get through it. And most importantly, they don’t realize that they can come out the other side feeling good. Yes, good. Empowered. Free. Even excited about what’s next.
That’s where I come in.
You don’t need a “shark” attorney who promises to destroy your ex and burn everything down in the process. You need a strategist. Someone who listens. Someone who sees the full board and plans five moves ahead. Someone who knows when to fight and when to negotiate for a better, smarter outcome.
Divorce is personal. Your lawyer should treat it that way. I believe in giving clients honest advice, clear direction, and powerful advocacy without fueling unnecessary conflict. I’m here to make sure you don’t just survive this process, but that you move forward with your head high and your future intact.
So if you’re feeling lost or stuck, just know: you’re not alone. And you don’t have to figure it out on your own.
If you’re ready to turn the page, I’ve got you. With smart strategy, grounded support, and a legal game plan built around your goals, not anyone else’s drama.
Let’s get to work. Let’s move forward. Let’s rebuild stronger than before.
The Divorce Artist™️ 