Four Things That Will Double The Cost Of Your Divorce (And How To Avoid Them!)

Nothing runs up your legal fees in divorce faster than urgent phone calls and late night emails to your lawyer. Dialing your lawyer about custody or possible arrest is reasonable. But some things are not urgent: your blender is not an important part of your divorce (even if it is a “Vitamix”).

But your world is turned upside down right now! That’s why you hired a lawyer – to guide you with pragmatic and unemotional response to your life drama. Here are my top 4 tips that will keep your legal fees in check:

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Vlog: New York Alimony and Child Support Basics

Vlog: New York Alimony and Child Support Basics

This Vlog is a short chat about the basics of Alimony (called “maintenance” in New York) and child support under the statutory framework. Keep in mind that these are quick explanations of complicated areas that have many exceptions. But I give you the basic run-down on what we are talking about when looking at maintenance and child support figures – a good starting point before any deviations or exceptions!

Questions? Feel free to join in the comments or send me an email.

 

Men: 4 Tips You Want To Know About Divorce (That Will Save You $)

QuestionsYou’ve just been sacked with divorce papers from the woman who in this scenario hasn’t been paying the bills for some time.

Nothing will increase the cost of your case faster than failing to weigh the cost of the fight. Know what to fight about and what to let go: Continue reading “Men: 4 Tips You Want To Know About Divorce (That Will Save You $)”

Interview: Child Support and Divorce: 8 Experts Give Their Best Advice

value questionA number of divorce professionals — including yours truly — spoke with Glass Jacobson’s Divorce Advisory Group about top tips in dealing with child support during your divorce. My number one tip: Continue reading “Interview: Child Support and Divorce: 8 Experts Give Their Best Advice”

Top Six Reasons You Should Take The Job Despite Your Divorce

calculatorMarcy hadn’t worked in four years and suddenly was faced with an amazing six-figure job offer – but the offer came right in the middle of her extremely nasty divorce. “Should I take it?” she asked. “What about child support? Alimony? Custody?” My answer was absolutely YES – take the job! Here are my top 6 reasons why you should take the job, regardless of your divorce: Continue reading “Top Six Reasons You Should Take The Job Despite Your Divorce”

He Said/She Said: Should We Separate? Tips From a Marriage Counselor and Divorce Lawyer

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In our second installment of He Said/She Said on the Huffington Post, marriage counselor Aaron Anderson and I disagree about whether couples should have a trial separation: 

When it comes to test-driving a separation everyone has an opinion, but no one disagrees more than your marriage counselor and your divorce attorney. A trial separation is one of the most challenging decisions a couple can make when facing hard relationship problems. Couples often struggle with questions like “What will we tell the kids?,” “Is it healthy to try and stay in the same house?” and “What are the legal consequences if I move?”

With so many questions to address, Denver marriage counselor Aaron Anderson advises couples that it’s healthier to separate during the divorce but New York divorce attorney Morghan Richardson advises against a move-out. Here’s why in their latest he said/she said: Continue reading “He Said/She Said: Should We Separate? Tips From a Marriage Counselor and Divorce Lawyer”

The #1 Secret Weapon And Surprising Best Friend In Your Divorce

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Meet your new BFF

Mark was confused: his wife was demanding their co-op apartment in the divorce, and he felt – deep in his heart – that she should have it. His friends and coworkers were telling him it was a bad deal to trade-off paying her “alimony” and give her the apartment. And so was I. When Mark came in for our next appointment, I showed him my number one secret weapon in divorce – and his new best friend: a calculator.

“When you break down the tax benefits to paying ‘alimony’ and look closely at avoiding capital gains in a sale of the home, you are losing,” I told Mark. And so did the calculator.

Once Mark and I factored in the costs of litigation (best-case and worst-case), and examined his investment and retirement accounts, he had a choice: would he give up $175k in exchange for a “quick” settlement? Finally, Mark saw the light and went to a CPA and a realtor to confirm our rough estimates. Continue reading “The #1 Secret Weapon And Surprising Best Friend In Your Divorce”