#Divorce Perspectives

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There is no question about it: the court process is taxing, expensive and stressful. Sometimes parties try to punish each other by filing extraneous motions — or even appeals that drag out a case and shoot up the legal fees. You may be struggling to keep your head up, to stay strong, or see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Visualize the results you want and where you are trying to go as your new life comes together. Just keep taking small steps forward.

There is an old joke that is similar in sentiment: “Why is divorce so expensive? Because it’s worth it.”

Four Things That Will Double The Cost Of Your Divorce (And How To Avoid Them!)

dirty money hangNothing runs up your legal fees in divorce faster than urgent phone calls and late night emails to your lawyer. Dialing your lawyer about custody or possible arrest is reasonable. But some things are not urgent: your blender is not an important part of your divorce (even if it is a “Vitamix”).

But your world is turned upside down right now! That’s why you hired a lawyer – to guide you with pragmatic and unemotional response to your life drama. Here are my top 4 tips that will keep your legal fees in check: Continue reading “Four Things That Will Double The Cost Of Your Divorce (And How To Avoid Them!)”

Interview: Divorce is a luxury | Emma Johnson

wsm-header-eEarlier this week, Financial blogger Emma Johnson — who writes at WealthySingleMommy.com, Forbes.com and runs a popular podcast called “Earn Like a Mother” — and I spoke about the idea that Divorce is a luxury. Continue reading “Interview: Divorce is a luxury | Emma Johnson”

Interview: 9 Signs Your Marriage Was Doomed From The Start

legs-divorceThis week I spoke with Huffington Post associate editor Brittany Wong about the top signs a marriage is doomed from the start. Many times, people ignore the red flags, only to have these issues break the marriage later on. Continue reading “Interview: 9 Signs Your Marriage Was Doomed From The Start”

DNA Info: 4 Things For Couples to Know If They’re Delaying Marriage to Buy a Home

homesLast week, I spoke to DNA Info reporter Nikhita Venugopal about the perils of home ownership for unmarried couples. Continue reading “DNA Info: 4 Things For Couples to Know If They’re Delaying Marriage to Buy a Home”

He Said/She Said: Should We Separate? Tips From a Marriage Counselor and Divorce Lawyer

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In our second installment of He Said/She Said on the Huffington Post, marriage counselor Aaron Anderson and I disagree about whether couples should have a trial separation: 

When it comes to test-driving a separation everyone has an opinion, but no one disagrees more than your marriage counselor and your divorce attorney. A trial separation is one of the most challenging decisions a couple can make when facing hard relationship problems. Couples often struggle with questions like “What will we tell the kids?,” “Is it healthy to try and stay in the same house?” and “What are the legal consequences if I move?”

With so many questions to address, Denver marriage counselor Aaron Anderson advises couples that it’s healthier to separate during the divorce but New York divorce attorney Morghan Richardson advises against a move-out. Here’s why in their latest he said/she said: Continue reading “He Said/She Said: Should We Separate? Tips From a Marriage Counselor and Divorce Lawyer”

In Forbes: Relationship Tips From Divorce Attorneys

cake topAs quoted in Forbes, here are 15 relationship tips from the most jaded professionals in the field — divorce lawyers — (including advice from yours truly): Continue reading “In Forbes: Relationship Tips From Divorce Attorneys”