How To Know When Divorce Is The Answer?

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Marriage is hard work. But that shouldn’t be confused with a bad or painful relationship that causes you more tears than smiles. Remember happy?

I am frequently asked: “But how do I know that divorce is the answer?” Very few people are 100% certain about divorce. I have personally handled hundreds of divorces at this point in my career and if you have doubts, you aren’t alone. Continue reading “How To Know When Divorce Is The Answer?”

3 Myths About Starting Your Divorce (and the Actual Truth)

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Joan was a mess: tears streamed down her face carrying trails of mascara with them. Her hair was matted in the back and she clenched a bag of papers. “I can’t tell you where we are at here if you won’t hand me what you received,” I reminded her. Reluctantly she showed me the Summons.

“He’s divorcing me!” Joan bawled. “How dare he give me these papers at dinner – it was supposed to be a talk about our future!” Poor Joan had a right to be angry. But there was one, small technical problem: “That wasn’t a valid way to start the divorce,” I told her. Why did I say that? After the jump: Continue reading “3 Myths About Starting Your Divorce (and the Actual Truth)”

#Divorce Perspectives

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There is no question about it: the court process is taxing, expensive and stressful. Sometimes parties try to punish each other by filing extraneous motions — or even appeals that drag out a case and shoot up the legal fees. You may be struggling to keep your head up, to stay strong, or see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Visualize the results you want and where you are trying to go as your new life comes together. Just keep taking small steps forward.

There is an old joke that is similar in sentiment: “Why is divorce so expensive? Because it’s worth it.”

Men: 4 Tips You Want To Know About Divorce (That Will Save You $)

QuestionsYou’ve just been sacked with divorce papers from the woman who in this scenario hasn’t been paying the bills for some time.

Nothing will increase the cost of your case faster than failing to weigh the cost of the fight. Know what to fight about and what to let go: Continue reading “Men: 4 Tips You Want To Know About Divorce (That Will Save You $)”

Forbes: How Your Spouse’s Ashley Madison Account Can Impact Your Divorce

confused-businessmanNow that hackers leaked the email addresses of 37 million users of Ashley Madison, the dating service for married people in search of an affair, how will the public release of such private information impact your divorce?  I spoke with Emma Johnson, a financial reporter with Forbes, about the issue: Continue reading “Forbes: How Your Spouse’s Ashley Madison Account Can Impact Your Divorce”

Top Six Reasons You Should Take The Job Despite Your Divorce

calculatorMarcy hadn’t worked in four years and suddenly was faced with an amazing six-figure job offer – but the offer came right in the middle of her extremely nasty divorce. “Should I take it?” she asked. “What about child support? Alimony? Custody?” My answer was absolutely YES – take the job! Here are my top 6 reasons why you should take the job, regardless of your divorce: Continue reading “Top Six Reasons You Should Take The Job Despite Your Divorce”

Forbes: Will The Ashley Madison Hack Result In New Divorce Cases?

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The threats to publicly out 37 million users of the online cheating service whose information was hacked from AshleyMadison.com’s servers are raising questions among divorce service professionals and marriage counselors alike. Could the public display of people seeking affairs result in more divorce filings? How will those individuals named be harmed in a divorce? I spoke with Emma Johnson, a financial reporter with Forbes, about the issue: Continue reading “Forbes: Will The Ashley Madison Hack Result In New Divorce Cases?”