Four Things That Will Double The Cost Of Your Divorce (And How To Avoid Them!)

Nothing runs up your legal fees in divorce faster than urgent phone calls and late night emails to your lawyer. Dialing your lawyer about custody or possible arrest is reasonable. But some things are not urgent: your blender is not an important part of your divorce (even if it is a “Vitamix”).

But your world is turned upside down right now! That’s why you hired a lawyer – to guide you with pragmatic and unemotional response to your life drama. Here are my top 4 tips that will keep your legal fees in check:

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Top 5 Lessons From a Divorce in Space

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Astronaut Anne McClain is facing the first allegation of a crime committed in space, reports The New York Times. McClain’s estranged wife, Summer Worden, accused the astronaut of accessing her bank account while on a six-month mission aboard the International Space Station. The pair have been in the midst of a separation and custody dispute over their young son for the majority of the past year, according to The Times.

Here are my divorce lessons from this story: Continue reading “Top 5 Lessons From a Divorce in Space”

Does Your Relationship Spark Joy?

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Hot as hell and I’m walking by a couple on the sidewalk in New York City. They have a new baby. And I remember this feeling. He’s silent, standing with the stroller. His face is annoyed — like his woman could just disappear from earth and it wouldn’t matter to him. She’s saying something. She’s trying to suppress tears, frustration and still seem calm and attune to the hot wiggling baby in her arms. It’s not supposed to be this hard, she’s thinking. There’s supposed to be joy packed into this thing called love somehow, somewhere. Continue reading “Does Your Relationship Spark Joy?”

How To Know When Divorce Is The Answer?

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Marriage is hard work. But that shouldn’t be confused with a bad or painful relationship that causes you more tears than smiles. Remember happy?

I am frequently asked: “But how do I know that divorce is the answer?” Very few people are 100% certain about divorce. I have personally handled hundreds of divorces at this point in my career and if you have doubts, you aren’t alone. Continue reading “How To Know When Divorce Is The Answer?”

3 Myths About Starting Your Divorce (and the Actual Truth)

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Joan was a mess: tears streamed down her face carrying trails of mascara with them. Her hair was matted in the back and she clenched a bag of papers. “I can’t tell you where we are at here if you won’t hand me what you received,” I reminded her. Reluctantly she showed me the Summons.

“He’s divorcing me!” Joan bawled. “How dare he give me these papers at dinner – it was supposed to be a talk about our future!” Poor Joan had a right to be angry. But there was one, small technical problem: “That wasn’t a valid way to start the divorce,” I told her. Why did I say that? After the jump: Continue reading “3 Myths About Starting Your Divorce (and the Actual Truth)”

#Divorce Perspectives

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There is no question about it: the court process is taxing, expensive and stressful. Sometimes parties try to punish each other by filing extraneous motions — or even appeals that drag out a case and shoot up the legal fees. You may be struggling to keep your head up, to stay strong, or see the light at the end of the tunnel.

Visualize the results you want and where you are trying to go as your new life comes together. Just keep taking small steps forward.

There is an old joke that is similar in sentiment: “Why is divorce so expensive? Because it’s worth it.”

Men: 4 Tips You Want To Know About Divorce (That Will Save You $)

QuestionsYou’ve just been sacked with divorce papers from the woman who in this scenario hasn’t been paying the bills for some time.

Nothing will increase the cost of your case faster than failing to weigh the cost of the fight. Know what to fight about and what to let go: Continue reading “Men: 4 Tips You Want To Know About Divorce (That Will Save You $)”