This Vlog is a short chat about the basics of Alimony (called “maintenance” in New York) and child support under the statutory framework. Keep in mind that these are quick explanations of complicated areas that have many exceptions. But I give you the basic run-down on what we are talking about when looking at maintenance and child support figures – a good starting point before any deviations or exceptions!
Questions? Feel free to join in the comments or send me an email.
We are a few months out from summer wedding season, which means that the time to talk prenups. Talking about it now will give you time to consider the agreement, negotiations and hopefully not add to the pressure you might be experiencing as the wedding draws near.
Why get a prenup? A typical prenup sets out what is viewed as marital property and what will remain separate property. It addresses who gets financial support and how much.
In this short Vlog I talk about reasons why to get a prenup, reasons why prenups can be overturned, and some interesting things you might want to put in your agreement.
Still have questions? Join the discussion in the comments or give me a shout (now, come on and shout now! Heeyyy-eyyy!) to discuss your pending nuptials: firstname.lastname@example.org
Marcy hadn’t worked in four years and suddenly was faced with an amazing six-figure job offer – but the offer came right in the middle of her extremely nasty divorce. “Should I take it?” she asked. “What about child support? Alimony? Custody?” My answer was absolutely YES – take the job! Here are my top 6 reasons why you should take the job, regardless of your divorce: Continue reading “Top Six Reasons You Should Take The Job Despite Your Divorce”→
Mark was confused: his wife was demanding their co-op apartment in the divorce, and he felt – deep in his heart – that she should have it. His friends and coworkers were telling him it was a bad deal to trade-off paying her “alimony” and give her the apartment. And so was I. When Mark came in for our next appointment, I showed him my number one secret weapon in divorce – and his new best friend: a calculator.
“When you break down the tax benefits to paying ‘alimony’ and look closely at avoiding capital gains in a sale of the home, you are losing,” I told Mark. And so did the calculator.
I know an amazing mother of four children. She is on her second marriage and this time, the marriage is extremely successful. She and her caring, supportive husband are both school teachers. They have two-year-old twins and a house with — literally — a white-picket fence around it. It wasn’t always this way.
I’ll call this woman “Anne.”
Anne’s ex-husband was an obsessive, controlling and verbally abusive police officer. He drank. He cheated. And when Anne protested, he threatened to use his job to take custody of their preschool-aged kids and make her life a living hell. He also threatened to use his position as the sole bread-winner to hire the best lawyer and steam-roll over her in court. Yet, rather than feeling trapped and overwhelmed, Anne seized control of the situation — by taking control of her finances.