Does Your Relationship Spark Joy?

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Hot as hell and I’m walking by a couple on the sidewalk in New York City. They have a new baby. And I remember this feeling. He’s silent, standing with the stroller. His face is annoyed — like his woman could just disappear from earth and it wouldn’t matter to him. She’s saying something. She’s trying to suppress tears, frustration and still seem calm and attune to the hot wiggling baby in her arms. It’s not supposed to be this hard, she’s thinking. There’s supposed to be joy packed into this thing called love somehow, somewhere. Continue reading “Does Your Relationship Spark Joy?”

Vlog: New York Alimony and Child Support Basics

Vlog: New York Alimony and Child Support Basics

This Vlog is a short chat about the basics of Alimony (called “maintenance” in New York) and child support under the statutory framework. Keep in mind that these are quick explanations of complicated areas that have many exceptions. But I give you the basic run-down on what we are talking about when looking at maintenance and child support figures – a good starting point before any deviations or exceptions!

Questions? Feel free to join in the comments or send me an email.

 

Ladies: Three Red Flags The Relationship Is Doomed (And Why You Should Run!)

2012-09-16 13.25.44Over the years as a divorce attorney I’ve seen hundreds of relationships falling to pieces in a variety of creative ways. Time and again people come up with new ways to screw up their marriages. But too often my clients knew they shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place! Rather than walk down the aisle, they should have run the other direction. Here are three serious red flags that you shouldn’t stay in the relationship (or heed my warning: your story will end the same way!) Continue reading “Ladies: Three Red Flags The Relationship Is Doomed (And Why You Should Run!)”

nav_top_lft_2009Last month, associate Rachel Goldenberg and I co-authored a piece about the ways in which Divorce Mediation might be able to help solve the “Get” crisis — an increasing problem faced by religious Jewish women when their putative ex-husband refuses to give them a religious divorce.  The piece struck a chord within the mediation community and has been picked up by The Huffington Post, The Times of Israel and now, we are so pleased that Mediate.com has entered into this conversation.

While our article focused on the many benefits that mediation might have in providing a forum for Jewish couples facing divorce, the same can be said for couples that practice other religious beliefs where a religious divorce is also a necessary part of the dissolution of their relationship. Asking for a civil divorce is difficult enough; asking for two divorces can be even more overwhelming.

Our original piece is found here: Five Ways That Divorce Mediation Can Help Resolve The Get Crisis. Join the discussion by commenting about your experiences.

Five Ways That Divorce Mediation Can Help Resolve The “Get” Crisis

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Leah was still chained to her ex-husband: two years after the civil court granted her a divorce, her ex-husband Dovid, a devote orthodox Jew, still refused to give her a religious divorce called a “get.” Without the religious divorce, Leah would not be able to remarry – or even date – in her community. Her life was on hold, tied to her ex- at his whim. And she is not alone.

The number of Jewish women being denied a religious divorce is on the rise. The results are devastating: younger women with children and little money are forced to forgo financial payments or even custody in exchange for a get. Out of desperation, people start taking matters into their own hands. Recently several rabbis were arrested in a plot to beat reluctant husbands into giving gets. This so-called “Get Crisis,” is the product of a myriad of factors, which may be avoided by using divorce mediation.

Here are five ways that divorce mediation can help resolve the get crisis:   Continue reading “Five Ways That Divorce Mediation Can Help Resolve The “Get” Crisis”

True Story: How to Squirrel Away $5,000 to Get Out of a Horrible Marriage (And Get the Kids, House and Alimony)

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I know an amazing mother of four children. She is on her second marriage and this time, the marriage is extremely successful. She and her caring, supportive husband are both school teachers. They have two-year-old twins and a house with — literally — a white-picket fence around it. It wasn’t always this way.

I’ll call this woman “Anne.”

Anne’s ex-husband was an obsessive, controlling and verbally abusive police officer. He drank. He cheated. And when Anne protested, he threatened to use his job to take custody of their preschool-aged kids and make her life a living hell. He also threatened to use his position as the sole bread-winner to hire the best lawyer and steam-roll over her in court. Yet, rather than feeling trapped and overwhelmed, Anne seized control of the situation — by taking control of her finances.

But not in the way you might think.

Continue reading “True Story: How to Squirrel Away $5,000 to Get Out of a Horrible Marriage (And Get the Kids, House and Alimony)”

How Women Prepare For Divorce: Interview @First Wives World

logo_fwwFirst Wives World recently contacted me to discuss my thoughts on how women can better prepare themselves for divorce, including how to look for the right divorce attorney.

Here is an excerpt from that interview (or read the full interview here):  Continue reading “How Women Prepare For Divorce: Interview @First Wives World”