There’s nothing wrong with a quick and friendly divorce, if both parties are clear-headed, transparent, and genuinely ready. But rushing the legal process rarely helps end emotional pain. In fact, speeding through it often creates more stress, more fights, and more bills later on.
Here are six reasons not to rush your divorce:
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On paper, “splitting everything 50/50” sounds fair. Equal shares, equal rights, clean break. But here’s the ugly truth: a 50/50 split often leaves stay-at-home parents at a massive disadvantage.
Why? Because money in divorce isn’t just about the snapshot of today’s bank balance. It’s about how those numbers got there, and where they’re headed.
Within the last few years, a Spanish court awarded €204,624.86 (approx. $215,664 USD) plus a €500/month annuity to a homemaker for 25 years of exclusive domestic labor, breaking new legal ground in recognizing that such unpaid labor entitles financial compensation, even under a separation-of-property marriage regime.
This discussion should be required reading for any spouse or parent thinking of “staying home” or stepping back from their career during a marriage. Here in New York, there is very little return-on-investment for that sacrifice, and a court isn’t going to compensate for the lost time and future career setbacks.
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What Every Hands-On Dad Needs to Know
Active, involved dads often face an uphill battle in custody disputes. This article outlines five key strategies for fathers heading into court. You’re not just a weekend dad or second string. You’re a fully engaged, emotionally invested parent, handling tantrums, homework, doctor visits, and bedtime routines. But when divorce turns into a custody battle, even the most involved fathers can feel sidelined. Smart preparation and strategic thinking can help fathers protect their role and stay closely connected to their children.
Here’s what every active dad should know before stepping into family court:
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Let’s get this out of the way up front: every married woman should have at least $5,000 in a bank account that’s hers alone: full stop.
Now before anyone starts clutching pearls or calling this marital betrayal, let’s be clear:
I’m not saying the account has to be a secret (though for some women, it probably should be). And I’m certainly not suggesting you stop caring about your partner’s feelings, as healthy relationships are built on openness and mutual respect.
But having your own money is part of being an adult. It’s not about prepping for divorce (though we’ll get to that). It’s about independence, protection, and peace of mind.
Because here’s the reality: life happens. And life is messy.
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