Podcast Interview: The Relationship Restaurant

Relationship Restaurant

Divorce often intersects with couples therapy. Many times my clients are just coming to new realizations about their marriage during couples counseling or have tried many times over to make it work. Two excellent therapists and certified coaches that I had the chance to speak with are Poppy and Geoff Spencer. Their work and their marriage — to each other — has been documented in their #1 bestselling book “One Billion Seconds: There’s Still Time to Discover Love.” This dynamic pair discussed a host of different issues when it comes to the realization that a divorce may be on the horizon on the podcast: The Relationship Restaurant. The podcast focus is on “a figurative place where you can feel comfortable and safe to explore your relationship questions and concerns, so you can create your very own heart healthy relationships.”

Poppy and Geoff Spencer
Poppy and Geoff Spencer

https://poppyandgeoff.com/e036-debunking-divorce/ 

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Free event: Thursday at the Friars Club

This Thursday, Morghan Richardson will be discussing Prenups and Property issues at the famed Friars Club in Midtown. Joining will be Compass Real Estate Broker Elizabeth Schwartz. Free event but space is limited — RSVP here. Come join us from 6pm to 8pm for drinks and snacks.

 

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Divorce Is Not Revenge.

www.TheDivorceArtist.comA client that I’ll call “Tanya” had a problem. Her husband was not only sleeping with her best friend, but he ran up more than $35k in credit card debt to take his affair on a trip to Thailand. Tanya was humiliated and angry. “I have done everything for him and the kids while he’s been parading around his girlfriend — my best friend — behind my back!” she said. “He needs to pay for this; I want revenge.” Revenge. Payback. Vengeance. What better place than a divorce court to get revenge on your spouse, right?

But this was Tanya’s real problem: divorce is not revenge. And divorce court is absolutely not the place to seek retribution. Surprised? Here are my top 5 reasons why divorce is not the place to get revenge on your spouse: Continue reading “Divorce Is Not Revenge.”

Child-Support: Fair or Fail?

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Michael looked at me with a stunned glare. I re-ran the child support calculations again. After some (but not all) of his taxes were considered, the calculator showed the same number, 25% of his income for child support. “I knew I was going to pay; I just didn’t know it was going to be that much!”

Primary bread-winners repeat after me: you agreed to pay the bills during the marriage and you are stuck paying after the divorce.

Many times, the amount isn’t unfair, but rather the fact that you are forced to pay an ex-spouse (who probably gave you some emotional scars). And, on top of that, you have no ability to control how that money is spent (or if that money is even spent on the child — or her endless shoe collection).  Continue reading “Child-Support: Fair or Fail?”