Category: Men’s Issues

Child-Support: Paying Your Fair-Share Or Funding Your Ex-Spouse’s Spending Spree?

Child support: violations can land you in jail. But is it really “fair”? Join the discussion in the comments.

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2012-05-09_14-05-44_130Michael looked at me with a stunned glare. I re-ran the child support calculations again. After some (but not all) of his taxes were considered, the calculator showed the same number, 25% of his income for child support. “I knew I was going to pay; I just didn’t know it was going to be that much!”

Primary bread-winners repeat after me: you agreed to pay the bills during the marriage and you are stuck paying after the divorce.

Many times, the amount isn’t unfair, but rather the fact that you are forced to pay an ex-spouse (who probably gave you some emotional scars). And, on top of that, you have no ability to control how that money is spent (or if that money is even spent on the child — or her endless shoe collection). 

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He Said/She Said: Should We Separate? Tips From a Marriage Counselor and Divorce Lawyer

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In our second installment of He Said/She Said on the Huffington Post, marriage counselor Aaron Anderson and I disagree about whether couples should have a trial separation: 

When it comes to test-driving a separation everyone has an opinion, but no one disagrees more than your marriage counselor and your divorce attorney. A trial separation is one of the most challenging decisions a couple can make when facing hard relationship problems. Couples often struggle with questions like “What will we tell the kids?,” “Is it healthy to try and stay in the same house?” and “What are the legal consequences if I move?”

With so many questions to address, Denver marriage counselor Aaron Anderson advises couples that it’s healthier to separate during the divorce but New York divorce attorney Morghan Richardson advises against a move-out. Here’s why in their latest he said/she said: Continue reading “He Said/She Said: Should We Separate? Tips From a Marriage Counselor and Divorce Lawyer” →

As featured on the Huffpo: My Top Five Things Dads Should Know Before Setting Foot in Court

huffpostWhat happens when an actively involved dad is faced with a nasty, contentious custody battle?

When I say “active dad,” we are talking about more than changing a few diapers: you attend to the emotional needs of your kids and are genuinely involved in caretaking, potty training, homework, and tantrums. You’re involved in a real, meaningful way, and you intend to continue that involvement.

Here are the top five things that active fathers should know before they set foot in a courtroom — or click here to join the discussion on the Huffington Post.

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He Said, She Said: Should We See a Marriage Counselor or Divorce Lawyer?

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A divorce lawyer and a marriage counselor walk into a bar… Sounds like the beginning of a joke. But your relationship problems are no laughing matter. You need information and perspective.

When faced with questions about whether to divorce or reconcile, where do you go for advice: a marriage counselor or a divorce lawyer? You want to know: “How do I know if my marriage is over?” “If I go  to counseling, how do I know if my spouse will really change?” or “If I go to an attorney, is my marriage over, or can we still reconcile?”

Marriage counselor Aaron Anderson and I discuss our different views on when to see a therapist or #divorcelawyer in a piece featured on the Huffington Post.

Continue reading “He Said, She Said: Should We See a Marriage Counselor or Divorce Lawyer?” →