Abuse doesn’t always stop when the relationship ends. Sometimes, it just evolves.
She left the abuse.
She found the courage to walk away, to protect herself and her children. She packed the bags, filed the papers, endured the whisper campaigns. She did everything the world tells survivors to do.
But now she’s co-parenting with someone who never actually stopped hurting her, he just changed tactics.
He no longer needs to raise a hand.
Now, all he has to do is:
Divorce is an emotional process just as much as a legal process. Attorneys tend to ignore the emotion, when really, understanding the emotions involved can reveal what is driving a client or spouse to act a certain way.
As attorneys, we’re trained to focus on statutes, settlements, and case law. But the truth is, many of the biggest issues in divorce aren’t found in the paperwork. They live in the emotional undercurrent: fear, grief, resentment, guilt, and sometimes even relief.
Unfortunately, too many lawyers ignore the emotional reality of divorce. But in my experience, truly understanding a client’s emotional state, and the emotional motivations of the other side, can be the key to reaching a resolution faster and with less pain.
Here are the top 3 things that no one tells you about divorce, after the jump.
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This holiday season, you are thinking: “Just one more time.” One more time around your mother-in-law’s nasty snide comments; one more draining day of yule-tide “merriment”; and one last New Year’s hurrah. After the confetti settles, the weight of the relationship will be too much. In fact, the stress could do you in. So you will say “never again,” and spend the next year (or more) getting divorced. And you are not alone.
Continue reading “Holidays Can Mean Waiting To Divorce”Nothing will increase the cost of your divorce case faster than failing to weigh the cost of the fight. Read my top four tips about what is really worth fighting for and what you need to learn how to let go.
1. Affairs and other reasons for divorce. Won’t the judge throw the book at your spouse if s/he’s been sleeping with the yoga instructor for the last year? (or, uh, will you get in trouble because you’ve been sleeping with the yoga instructor?) Legally speaking, the simple answer is: No.
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