How To Cope With Adultery and Divorce

depositphotos_3092850_originalThis week I spoke with the smart and financially savvy Emma Johnson, over at her blog WealthySingleMommy.com about the problem with adultery from a divorce attorney’s perspective. The gist: courts won’t compensate you for a broken heart.

When there is infidelity, settlements are all but impossible, rationale goes out the window, and contention runs higher than in other matrimonial dissolution cases.

“That betrayal colors every single part of the divorce process, and makes it so much harder for the cheated-on spouse to be reasonable,” said New York City family attorney Morghan Richardson.

One of the most difficult conversations I have with clients can be dealing with their expectations because of a cheating spouse. Divorce can be an emotionally devastating experience. Adultery can make it much worse. But at the end of the day clients need to realize that the courts will do little about the reasons WHY you are getting divorced. Letting go of that emotional hurt can help get you to a fair agreement and move forward with your life.

Read Johnson’s take here: How To Deal With Divorce When Your Husband Cheated

Did your spouse cheat? How did the court handle that part of your case? Discuss in the comments.

Worst Divorce Case? I talk to Woman’s Day about the “Perfect Storm” of Divorce Cases

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Perfect storm of a divorce

 

There are many things that can make a divorce case horrible: emotional or obsessive clients who were not emotionally or financially prepared for a divorce; domestic violence; vindictive spouses who just want to punish the other person; children who are caught in the middle and witness too much; and creative lawyer-ing that can involve many courts and run up the cost and time frame of the case.

This week I spoke to Woman’s Day about one of my worst divorce cases, it was a “perfect storm: everything that could go wrong did go wrong.” Of course some of the small details and names are changed to keep it confidential. Once my firm got involved, we ended up turning the tables and getting our client the best outcome.

The story can be found at: 11 Divorce Lawyers Share Their Craziest Stories

“These tales make standard joint-custody cases look like a walk in the park.”

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Divorce Word of the Day: Comingle (don’t turn separate property into marital!)

My Divorce Word of the Day is: Comingle! The quick explanation? This word means you’ve combined your separate property with marital property. The result? You might have turned your separate stuff into marital stuff! I talk more about this here:

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