Ladies: Three Red Flags The Relationship Is Doomed (And Why You Should Run!)

2012-09-16 13.25.44Over the years as a divorce attorney I’ve seen hundreds of relationships falling to pieces in a variety of creative ways. Time and again people come up with new ways to screw up their marriages. But too often my clients knew they shouldn’t have gotten married in the first place! Rather than walk down the aisle, they should have run the other direction. Here are three serious red flags that you shouldn’t stay in the relationship (or heed my warning: your story will end the same way!) Continue reading “Ladies: Three Red Flags The Relationship Is Doomed (And Why You Should Run!)”

Why Rushing Your Divorce Can Give You Heartburn (And Cost You Money!)

“I wantlarger to be done with this! Why is this divorce taking so long?!” said every divorce client ever. While there is nothing wrong with a quick and friendly divorce, there are many times that rushing the legal process won’t help end your emotional pain. In fact, rushing your case may cost you more money in after-the-fact fixes. Here are my top 4 reasons why you should not rush your divorce:

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Forbes: How Your Spouse’s Ashley Madison Account Can Impact Your Divorce

confused-businessmanNow that hackers leaked the email addresses of 37 million users of Ashley Madison, the dating service for married people in search of an affair, how will the public release of such private information impact your divorce?  I spoke with Emma Johnson, a financial reporter with Forbes, about the issue: Continue reading “Forbes: How Your Spouse’s Ashley Madison Account Can Impact Your Divorce”

Forbes: Will The Ashley Madison Hack Result In New Divorce Cases?

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The threats to publicly out 37 million users of the online cheating service whose information was hacked from AshleyMadison.com’s servers are raising questions among divorce service professionals and marriage counselors alike. Could the public display of people seeking affairs result in more divorce filings? How will those individuals named be harmed in a divorce? I spoke with Emma Johnson, a financial reporter with Forbes, about the issue: Continue reading “Forbes: Will The Ashley Madison Hack Result In New Divorce Cases?”

Avoid These Four Relationship Pitfalls And Save Your Marriage

glovesWhat does a divorce lawyer know about saving marriages? You might be surprised. After so many clients, I’ve pin-pointed four relationship pitfalls that couples need to address if they want to avoid a seat at my desk:

1. The Sex Cycle

“Luke and Meg” sat across from one another in my office. A striking young couple, they met me for their first session of divorce mediation. They both agreed mediation would be better for their two-year-old son Josh. Less than thirty-minutes into the session, I could pin-point where their marriage had broken-down: sex. Or, rather, lack of sex and intimacy since the child was born. Continue reading “Avoid These Four Relationship Pitfalls And Save Your Marriage”

Featured on The Huffington Post: Holidays Mean Waiting to Divorce

huffpostMy piece about those of you who are gutting it out for one last holiday before filing for divorce come January 1st has caught the attention of readers on The Huffington Post. Let’s have a discussion about whether the holidays are worth preserving or whether it may be more honest to ask for a divorce regardless of the timing in the comments here or on the HuffPo.

This holiday season, you are thinking: “Just one more time.” One more time around your mother-in-law’s nasty snide comments; one more draining day of yule-tide “merriment”; and one last New Year’s hurrah. After the confetti settles, the weight of the relationship will be too much. In fact, the stress could do you in. So you will say “never again,” and spend the next year (or more) getting divorced. And you are not alone.

The statistics overwhelmingly show that you, and many others like you, are struggling through one last marital holiday season. Every year, we in the divorce industry know that January 1 is met with a spike in divorce filings. After the tree lights come down, my phone lights up. The holidays have a special magic that no one wants to disturb. Divorce conversations are intentionally avoided, because who wants to mar this season with bad memories? Trust me: you can make it through this holiday.

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That Special Time of Year: Holidays Mean Waiting To Divorce

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This holiday season, you are thinking: “Just one more time.” One more time around your mother-in-law’s nasty snide comments; one more draining day of yule-tide “merriment”; and one last New Year’s hurrah. After the confetti settles, the weight of the relationship will be too much. In fact, the stress could do you in. So you will say “never again,” and spend the next year (or more) getting divorced. And you are not alone. Continue reading “That Special Time of Year: Holidays Mean Waiting To Divorce”